You cannot connect with God easily when you have pests `in your life. Pest control is needed! The pests we are talking about here are toxic people, not literal pests, like rats or roaches. Figurative pests, my dear friend. In our lives, we meet a lot of people, and we are not exempted from meeting toxic people, and it’s normal and inevitable.
What do you do when your house is filled with pests? Immediately you call and do pest control to avoid spread and damage, and that’s what you ought to do with toxic people. You either cut them out or you keep your distance from toxic people.
In life, we meet a lot of people from kind to real jerks, all sorts of people. People come in different packages whether it’s a family member, a friend, a boss, toxic people are just inevitable in life. As we mentioned, they are unavoidable, and they can be potentially harmful to your health and overall well-being.
In life, we meet a lot of people from kind to real jerks, all sorts of people. People come in different packages whether it’s a family member, a friend, a boss, toxic people are just inevitable in life. As we mentioned, they are unavoidable, and they can be potentially harmful to your health and overall well-being.
In other words, they can be draining and consume a lot of your time and attention. Experiencing toxicity can bring about a lotof stress in you and long-term stress could harm your heart and put you at risk for a lot of health problems.
Did you know? Toxicity is like a pathogen, it’s contagious. But what are the characteristics of a toxic relationship? According to B. Sueskind, a therapist from the US, the characteristics of being toxic include:
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Selfishness (self-absorption or self-centeredness)
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Manipulative and emotional abuse
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Lies and Deceits
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Unempathetic
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Creates regular arguments and drama
Dear friend, If you already distinguish one or more characteristics from someone close to you or an acquaintance, immediately call pest control and eliminate them from your life. God has said, love others, but never forget to put boundaries and respect in your own space.
How to Truly Eliminate Toxic People In Your Life?
1. Be Vocal About How You Feel Towards Them
Dear friend, you never owe anyone an explanation that you’ll cut them out of your life, however, for your own peace of mind, you have to because you don’t want to repress your feelings and keep your truth bottled up. Self-respect is essential.
2. Keep Distance
If you want to break the tether with that person, it’s fine. But if you don’t want to that extent, especially because they are a member of your family, then keep a distance that you won’t be out of reach to them. It’s not bad to prioritize your overall health.
3. Boundaries, Boundaries, Boundaries
Learn to have and set boundaries, this is a clear sign that you respect yourself, and boundaries are the things you set out to do and not to do with toxic people
Always be clear about your intentions with them and keep critical limits you’ve forged.
4. Don’t Be The Grace of Fairweather People.
Even if you have your high ground setup and boundaries in place, toxic people have their ways of crawling back into your life. Maybe they need you because they are in a rough patch but dear friend, learn to reassess the situation and contemplate hard, always remember to keep boundaries.
At the end of the day, you are not a cushion bag and a safety net for them, fairweather people are like that. But if they are truly in need, learn to redirect them to the appropriate resources to help them.
5. Like Attracts Like.
Whatever energy you give out to the universe in the latter, you attract, positive = positive. To make it short, you should hang out or be with people who are passionate, kind, hard-working, positive, and others. Most especially, you should be with someone who makes you closer to God and makes you feel good about yourself and happy.
But this doesn’t mean they can’t be critical, if it’s for your growth, toughen up, accept it, change it and move on.
6. Talk to God or your Person.
Praying helps you cope with a lot of losses in life since you broke up with that person or cut ties with that person. As an end result, you may grieve for a while and to help you cope, pray, talk to your person (could either be your best friend who’s willing to listen), or seek a mental health professional. Always remember to make your mental health your priority.
7. Forgive but never forget.
Forgiveness is an essential tool in life, even God has done it on all the lies and deceits He received from His constituents, however, do not forget. Do not forget the harsh situations that person put you into, and do not forget that person drained you to the point you had to build up the broken pieces they did in your life.
Cutting someone in your life is like pest control, it’s an immediate solution to control damage and spread of toxicity. Remember all these key factors, and you’ll be on your way. There you have it and see you again next time!